Complaining Is Not Related to Moral Issues
My mom says that I am complaining when I tell her that she is hurting my feelings. Again, my oldest brother, David, criticized me for the same thing on Wednesday because my father would not let my mom get my clothes out of the dryer so that I could go to Bible study. I realized that I am not criticizing them when I say that they are hurting me because complaining is not related to morality.
The Bible says to teach people with gentleness (Galatians 6:1). If the Bible says to teach, it means that it is okay to tell people if they are doing something harmful under the condition that one does it gently.
Rather, complaining has to do with telling people that they are doing something wrong for reasons that have nothing to do with loving and its definition of giving and taking life. An example of complaining is how people put the toilet tissue on the hanger if they do not do it to intentionally hurt someone.
But it is not complaining to tell people if they are taking your life in some way. When we tell someone that they are taking life with godly love, then we can pray that God’s love touches their heart because God is patient that everyone comes to repentance (2 Peter 3:9).