Freedom Is Not Independence; It Is a Decision to Do Right or Wrong
I see Giovanni in December two hours away. My mom is taking me with two caregivers. Her uncle promised that he would meet Giovanni. Recently, my mom got mad because I told her not to rub my lip so hard when she cleans it. She said that she was going to take her uncle to dinner because she does not to be with me and could do whatever she wants. I learned that freedom boils down to doing right or wrong.
My mom thinks that freedom is doing things that “give her her own life,” but our lives are not our own. She always does things that disregard me because she thinks that regarding me is my controlling her. However, she loses control of her life and identity because she no longer has the ability to choose right and wrong.
The freedom that God gives us is the ability to choose how we want to react to others. We can choose to do good to the people around us, or we can choose to disregard others. When we disregard people around us, we usually end up hurting someone like my mom does to me.
Essentially, we always affect someone in some way because we do not live in a bubble. We live surrounded by people. So, our actions can either be to do good for others or harm someone.
Freedom becomes our decision to do right or wrong, not act independent without regard for others. Otherwise, freedom becomes control of hatred because we would constantly choose to hurt someone in some way. We would become slaves to sin like Romans 6:20-21 says and lose our identity. Independence would steal our identity. If right is always love (Matthew 22:39), then not love is always wrong. Because love is always kind (1 Corinthians 13:4), unkind is not love. Unkind disregards others.
By disregarding others, we lose our identity because it is found in our ability to choose how we want to react.