Kindness Is Understanding and Compassion
Love is kind. But what is kindness? I think that it is kind to be honest and tell people the truth no matter how harsh it is, but some people think that I am too direct and rude; I should be more polite. Everyone has their own preferences that the Bible says that we should respect when we do something for God (Romans 14), which is exactly where kindness comes from. Kindness is understanding.
Recently, my mom got mad at me and left me helpless for an hour this time. I needed my glasses pushed back so that the frame was not covering my pupil and the camera could follow where I was looking. Then, she shoved my glasses back so that the lens pressed against my eye and left a smudge. So, now I needed my glasses wiped so that the camera could see pass the smudge.
She got mad because she had to walk to the other side of the bed to wipe my glasses when her feet were swollen from standing the whole day. So, I told her to stop getting mad at me because the camera cannot see my eye. Then, she walked away for an hour without putting me on the computer and just lying there staring at the ceiling. When she returned, she said that she did not think about the computer.
I realized that kindness was understanding why people do what they do and being compassionate to help them solve their problems. If she stopped to consider why I needed my glasses needed to be wiped even though I kept trying to explain it instead of presuming that I was just requesting it for frivolous reasons, no one would have been hurt. If we all stop to consider why people do the things they do, we will not get puffed up and think that we are entitled to special treatment (1 Corinthians 4:18-21).
We can correct people with meekness like Galatians 6:1 because we have empathy for what they are going through. Society equates understanding to agreement in the sense that one allows another to continue behaving in a hurtful manner, but understanding simply means knowing why someone acts the way they do. Then, one can address the problem so that the other can solve the problem without hurting others. You can understand someone and still disagree with the way they act, but correct them gently.
As my previous post argued, love is forgiveness and correcting people gently. In such a way, kindness as understanding fulfills our aspirations of love.